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Thursday, June 11, 2015
Are you looking for that “missing piece” that has eluded you during years of meditating, healing and transformational work?
Do you long for a deep, unconditional self-love that allows you to free yourself from cycles of negativity, judgment, fear and shame – and open to a more connected, compassionate and creative relationship with yourself and others?
If so, you have come to the right place...
Those of us who have been on the transformational path have often spent many years meditating, doing therapy and participating in growth workshops. We’ve created powerful life intentions and worked on releasing our childhood stories. We’ve journaled our traumas. We’ve replaced limiting beliefs with more empowering ones.
And yet, if you are like most of us, there hasn’t been a deep shift in the baseline of loving yourself, which is central to your happiness. There may remain a subtle level of judgment and frustration with where you are – a sense of us not quite being good enough. Deep down, you may feel unlovable. Inadequate. Ashamed of parts of yourself. Or feel you need to improve in some way before you can be happy. You may even hate aspects of yourself.
When you are in this state, you not only feel badly about yourself, it undermines your relationships: You show up looking to GET love from people, rather than SHARE love, which introduces a bunch of problems.
All of these challenges can be traced back to the parts of you that haven’t fully healed and create the inner wholeness that you know is possible.
Many of these challenges are part and parcel of the human condition. Very few of us got a really healthy template for love growing up. And in our youthful “omnipotence,” we may have assumed WE were to blame – creating a core sense of shame or inadequacy.
Instead of addressing this at the root, we often create other substitute ways to experience that sense of unconditional love or avoid its painful absence – attachments to alcohol or drugs, addictions to relationships or sex, bouts with unhealthy eating patterns, even a tendency to numb out with media and technology.
Anything, it seems, to fill that ache inside, to have us “feel good” about ourselves.
Then, when we hear spiritual teachers sing the praises of unconditional love, we can feel depressed because we are aware of the swirl of self-judging thoughts, muddied emotions and the drama that manifests in our relationships – which can feel anything but loving.
Truly Loving Yourself from the Inside
Finding a steady stream of unconditional love from the INSIDE can, thus, seem like an impossible goal. Even if you are a dedicated seeker, you can find yourself struggling with a sense of incompleteness – of not having found the wholeness you are searching for.
That’s because there is an aspect of your growth and healing that is rarely – if ever – addressed by current approaches. And that is the ability for you to truly love different parts of yourself, and to create a secure inner bond between them.
The lack of this deep inner bonding is at the core of a remarkable number of challenges you might face – ranging from relationship struggles to addiction, anxiety and depression.
Underneath, there is almost always a place where you are rejecting or abandoning yourself... without even realizing it.
A Proven Process for Healing
It’s time for a new approach – one that blends spiritual practices with psychological science. And that approach is Inner Bonding, co-founded by psychologist Dr. Margaret Paul.
Inner Bonding begins with compassionate, deep inquiry to access and heal these parts of yourself and create a new template inside – one based on your higher Self, rather than your parental role models.
It helps you feel, embrace and embody the totality of your self, so that you are releasing your control games and addictive patterns, and discovering how to take action that reflects real self-love.
Before inventing the Inner Bonding methodology, Dr. Margaret had reached a point in her private practice where she was frustrated by the lack of real progress being made by clients. Then, when she met the method’s co-creator, they received higher guidance about how to develop the system.
Since the creation of Inner Bonding, Dr. Margaret has been blown away with the results in her practice, and in her own life. The core practices are remarkably effective with virtually anyone, and have positively impacted tens of thousands worldwide – including people like Grammy-winning artist Alanis Morissette – who has become a powerful public champion of the work
In the years since its inception, Inner Bonding has gained in stature and importance as a potent method for creating the internal self-love that is the hallmark of psychological and spiritual health (and which results in far more satisfying relationships).
During The Power to Heal Yourself course, you’ll learn the most important core insights and practices of this groundbreaking approach, which you can apply to cultivating truly unconditional self-love and self-worth – the foundation needed to go beyond addictions, dramas and dysfunctions of all kinds.
The Power of Inner Bonds
One way of understanding the Inner Bonding approach is to think about how psychology has shown that different levels of secure attachment are essential for a developing child. When we don’t have the attachments we need, that leaves parts of us feeling left out and rejected – parts of our personality and self that were not seen, embraced or loved by our parental figures.
Virtually all of us reach adulthood with aspects of ourselves feeling left out or rejected.
Instead of seeing this as a hopeless scenario, Inner Bonding uses a specific and proven 6-step methodology to establish clear, loving connections between these different aspects of your consciousness and also to your higher Self.
You will be taken through these 6-steps in a precise way during The Power to Heal Yourself – giving you not only an experience of unconditional love in the present, but also the means to keep working with different aspects of yourself into the future.
You’ll learn how to dialogue with your feelings, pain, anxiety, self-hatred and fear, as well as get to the core of self-abandonment and shame. You’ll see how you can start connecting to higher guidance around your beliefs, and take loving actions that reinforce positive shifts.
And you’ll even learn how to establish new brain pathways for truly loving yourself.
Be Guided Step by Step
The first step in the Inner Bonding approach is understanding how to be present in your body through mindfulness practice. Most people are in their head, and avoid their feelings by judging themselves. And because they’re abandoning themselves, they feel more alone and empty- creating more pain. You’ll discover how to truly be in your body, and be fully present to your feelings.
The second step is based on being grounded in the intention, “I will learn how to love myself.” During this phase of the journey, you’ll discover how to love yourself in a way that frees you from controlling behaviors and unconscious reactions to pain. This will help you move into your healthy adult self.
The third step is a dialogue process with your feelings, pain, anxiety, fear, shame. You’ll begin to see all feelings as giving you important information, instead of something to avoid. You’ll understand the root of why you avoid certain overwhelming feelings and what you’re doing now to perpetuate wounded feelings – as well as release outdated beliefs.
In the fourth step, you’ll learn to open to your higher source of guidance, focusing on learning how to love yourself and what loving actions to take toward yourself. This will help you raise the frequency of your consciousness – amplifying access to your higher purpose, creativity and joy.
In the fifth step, you’ll take loving actions to reinforce the higher frequency. And in the sixth, to complete the process, you’ll learn to carefully evaluate your feelings.
This whole sequence does not happen just once, but can be applied many times throughout your day – during meditation, a break at work, or even while you are sitting at a traffic light.
It gives you an easy-to-use roadmap for working with issues, fears, anxieties and challenges that arise – bringing them into a state of loving wholeness.
When you take The Power to Heal Yourself course, you will:
- Learn how to share love, rather than get love.
- Gain relief from pain, anger and shame.
- End many unhealthy patterns in relationship.
- Get to the root of what is causing depression and anxiety.
- Discover how to use self-love – instead of food – to fill emptiness.
- Approach new relationships from a stance of fullness, instead
- Release and heal outdated beliefs about yourself.
- Move out of stagnation into a life of aliveness, passion and sense
- Diminish and understand your addictive patterns.
- Gain deeper insights into, and freedom from, repeating patterns you don’t want – relationship fights, addictions and/or attracting the same type of people.
- Enhance your ability to resolve conflicts and communicate.
- Receive clarity about how you’ve been depleting yourself through strategies to get love from others.
- Renew your sense of purpose for being alive.
- Deepen your spiritual practices by freeing up some of your past so you can rise to higher frequencies more regularly in your other practices.
- Move beyond feelings of victimhood, powerlessness and hopelessness.
- Learn to love others in a self-responsible and adult way.
What You’ll Learn in These 7 Modules
In this 7-part intensive, Dr. Margaret will teach you how to transform your life through a self-healing process that creates a shift into true self-love and establishes a daily personal connection and dialogue with a loving source of higher guidance.
Each teaching, inquiry and practice session will build harmoniously upon the next, so that you’ll develop a complete understanding of the practices, tools and principles you’ll need to love yourself and share your love with others.
Course sessions are on Thursdays at 4:00pm Pacific.
Module One: Beginning Your Inner Journey (June 11)
In this first session, we will explore how at the deepest level only two paths in life are available to us: “the path of fear” and “the path of courage and love.” Underlying the choice between these two paths is the moment-by-moment choice of one of two intentions. You will explore four different aspects of yourself that need to be understood and eventually integrated. Subjects include:
- Understanding the intent to learn about loving yourself, and the intent to avoid pain through some form of controlling behavior
- Understanding the various forms of controlling behavior that stem from self-rejection/self-abandonment
- Integrating your essence, your ego-wounded self, your loving adult and your higher Self on another level
- Defining the 6 steps of Inner Bonding
- Becoming aware of the consequences of each intention
Module Two: Getting to Know and Compassionately Accept Your
Wounded Self (June 25)
In this session, we will go deeply into your survival mechanism – the part of you that got you through difficult times as you were growing up. You will become aware of the role modeling that creates this aspect of yourself – the aspect that now needs to heal and transform into a creative ally. Subjects include:
- Understanding the false beliefs of your wounded self
- Becoming aware of where you got your false beliefs and your controlling, addictive behaviors
- Discovering the ways you protect against pain that actually creates more pain
- Seeing how we develop into takers and caretakers – two sides of the wounded self
- Understanding Shame
Module Three: Connecting with Your Higher Guidance and Discovering Your True
Core Self (July 2)
In this module you will discover the beauty of who you really are, and how to develop your loving adult self who can take loving action on your own behalf – and on behalf of others. Through visualization, you will learn to connect with your personal source of spiritual guidance that will then become the role model for loving yourself, and enables you to see who you really are. Subjects include:
- Discovering how to define your true, core self
- Learning to connect with your loving source of spiritual guidance
- Understanding the difference between operating from your wounded self and from your loving adult self
- Accessing your role-model for loving action
Module Four: Becoming Fully Connected to Yourself in This Moment
Step 1 of Inner Bonding (July 9)
You will receive a mindfulness process for connecting with your physical and emotional feelings, discovering how to move from your head into your body. You will learn how to be fully present in this moment, and find the place within you that wants to evolve from your feelings rather than avoid them. Subjects include:
- Discovering what it means to be “willing,” and the false beliefs in the way of your willingness to feel your feelings and learn from them
- Identifying the wounded feelings that we create and how to open to them
- Understanding the core painful feelings of life that come from others and situations
- Exploring false beliefs about pain, and the difference between pain and suffering
Module Five: Intent and the Loving Adult
Step 2 of Inner Bonding (July 16)
In this session we go deeply into the intent to learn, rather than the intent to control. We will explore various means of opening to learning and what to do if anger, blame and resentment are in the way of opening your heart to learning and becoming a loving adult. Subjects include:
- Deep inquiry into the powerful intent to learn about love
- Understanding how raise your frequency to connect with your spiritual guidance
- Understanding and applying the “power of compassion”
- Connecting with guidance to become a loving adult
- Going through the “Inner Bonding Anger Process”
Module Six: Your Feelings, False Beliefs and Accessing the Truth
Steps 3 and 4 of Inner Bonding (July 23)
You will learn dialogue processes with your core self, your wounded self and your spiritual guidance. This is a deep internal dialogue process with your feelings and your belief system – enabling you to uncover false beliefs that may be causing your pain. Subjects include:
- The layers of exploration that enables you to access your unconscious beliefs
- The key questions to ask your core self and your wounded self
- The key questions to ask your spiritual guidance to heal your false beliefs and resulting pain
Module Seven: The Power of Loving Action and Evaluating the Action
Steps 5 and 6 of Inner Bonding (July 30)
In this module we will explore the various kinds of loving actions – actions for yourself alone, and actions in relationships with others. Taking loving action can tap into deep fears, and these will be explored in precise depth. Then, you will learn how to evaluate whether or not the action you took was loving to you. Subjects include:
- How to really know what exactly are loving actions
- Taking the loving actions that help redefine your own worth
- Loving actions in relationships, and in conflict with others
- Understanding the two healthy choices in conflict
- The results of loving action: relief from guilt, anger, shame, anxiety, and depression – feeling whole, expansive and spacious
The Power to Heal Yourself Bonus Collection
In addition to Dr. Margaret’s transformative 7-part virtual course, you’ll also receive these powerful training sessions with the world’s leading visionaries and teachers. These bonus sessions are being offered to further complement what you’ll learn in the course – and take your understanding and practice to an even deeper level.
Individual Process and Creativity
Audio Dialogue with Dr. Margaret Paul and Alanis Morissette
In this candid 1-hour dialogue, singer/songwriter Alanis Morissette shares how practicing the principles of Inner Bonding helped her shift her relationships with partners, producers and herself – to become a more fully-realized person, mother and performer. Alanis also reveals that when she bonds with her own inner parents through inner conversations, she becomes more responsible and functional in all of her relationships. And, when she nurtures herself – in the same way that she cares for her own son – she thrives, as does her career.
Alanis Morissette is a singer-songwriter, guitarist, record producer and actress. She has won 16 Juno Awards and 7 Grammy Awards, was nominated for 2 Golden Globe Awards. Morissette began her career in Canada, and as a teenager recorded two dance-pop albums, Alanis and Now Is the Time, under MCA Records Canada. Her first international album was the rock-influenced Jagged Little Pill, released in 1995. Jagged has sold more than 33 million units globally. Her following album, Supposed Former Infatuation Junkie, was released in 1998. Morissette took up producing duties for her subsequent albums, which include Under Rug Swept, So-Called Chaos and Flavors of Entanglement. Her 8th studio album, Havoc and Bright Lights, was released on August 28, 2012. Morissette has sold more than 60 million albums worldwide. Additionally, she has written articles on parenting and relationships for the Huffington Post and iVillage.com.
Manifestation and the Power of Inner Bonding
Audio Dialogue with Dr. Margaret Paul and Dr. Erika Chopich
In this lively conversation, Dr. Margaret speaks with Dr. Erika Chopich, her friend and co-creator of Inner Bonding. Dr. Margaret and Dr. Erika share their experiences with manifesting their dreams that have resulted from their Inner Bonding work.
Dr. Erika Chopich, co-creator of Inner Bonding, holds a Ph.D. in psychology, is a best-selling author, and an ordained Chaplain. She has worked extensively with the homeless population around the country. Erika has a medical background and before practicing as a psychotherapist, she was an administrator for the Los Angeles Free Clinic. In addition to working with individuals, groups, and business mediation, Erika is an accomplished speaker and seminar leader. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including the Oprah show. She is co-author of Healing Your Aloneness and the Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, which have been translated into seven languages and are bestsellers in Germany.
Dear God, What is Love?
Dr. Margaret and her daughter Sheryl collaborated on this succinct e-book about love. Each section explores a different aspect of love and loving. Dr. Margaret accessed the concepts through her spiritual guidance, then Sheryl (author of The Conscious Bride ) transformed them into metaphor, beauty and poetry. Margaret drew the mandalas at the beginning of each section.
Inner Bonding Workshop Workbook
In this special workbook that is used in Dr. Margaret’s Inner Bonding workshops, you’ll receive charts, exercises and other helpful sheets, to support you in your learning and healing process throughout the course journey.
What people are saying about Dr. Margaret Paul...
[Here] is a method for recreating yourself as a powerful, spiritually connected, loving adult self – capable of taking personal responsibility for your own feelings and behaviors... a powerful method for healing relationship and family conflict, as well as for healing self-destructive and addictive behavior. I am very excited about this material. [It takes the truths found in] the newest wisdom literature, and renders them functional in everyday life. Anything that takes a huge wisdom and turns it into a practical tool is a treasure indeed. It is one thing to behold the wisdom and quite another to be able to use it.
– Neale Donald Walsch, Author of Conversations with God
Would you think me crazy if I said there was a single process that could solve all the issues with which we as human beings struggle? Over the years, I begin noticing a common denominator in all these problems and came to the conclusion that there is only one issue: human-kind’s lack of experience in feeling our Divine Self and our innate connection with the Divine. All other issues stem from this... [With Inner Bonding,] we are taught a most loving process [that] will take you on a life-changing journey down a path full of awakenings, tears, compassion, reunion, joy and peace. This path, in reference to our divinity, is one seldom even thought about, much less explored.
– Lindsay Wagner, Actress, Author, Humanitarian
Margaret Paul teaches the value of stepping into a new spiritual paradigm – into love and trust of self, others, and God
– Jack Canfield
Through this process I went from being my last resort to being my own best friend!... the most rewarding moment in my life. I finally experienced the total goodness and light that is the essence of my being – my true self. What could be a more powerful gift? It feels good to be whole!
– Catherine Oxenberg, Actress
Join the Global Community
The Power to Heal Yourself not only offers some of the most advanced online teachings currently available, it also offers a thriving global community of support.
Join your fellow students and practitioners from across the world in the live interactive conference calls or in our online community to support and learn from each other while you learn to transform your relationship with yourself.
This international community is also at the leading edge of a global movement of people who are committed to manifesting a better world for all beings. This emerging planetary movement is rooted in an open heart and stands for the principles of mutual support, cooperation, harmony and reverence for all of life.
Here’s What You’ll Receive
Seven 90-Minute Class Sessions with Dr. Margaret Paul
Experience a rare opportunity to be mentored and learn with renowned author and psychologist, Dr. Margaret Paul – from the comfort of your own home. Each class session includes renowned guest faculty, and helps you find unconditional love, presence and self-worth through Inner Bonding.
Seven Audio Recordings of
After each class, the audio will be available to you to download in high quality MP3 format. This way, you’ll never have to worry about missing a session, and you can listen anytime and anywhere – on your iPod, in your car, and at your convenience.
Seven PDF Transcripts of Each
In addition to the high quality MP3 audios, you’ll also receive the entire class transcription in PDF format after each session is completed. This way you can review, print and highlight the most important insights and practices that you’ll learn.
Seven 30-Minute Interactive Group
Following each class session there will be a live 30-minute interactive practice session, where you will be placed in an intimate group with several other participants on the conference call – to interact, share and do additional practices to help further integrate the weekly lessons.
Interactive Exercises and Questions for Each Lesson
After each session, you will then have the option to do related exercises and answer questions in order to accelerate your learning and integrate each week’s lesson.
Our exclusive online Facebook community is the perfect place to continue your learning after each class. Here, you can ask additional questions, interact with your fellow students and get access to additional resources to take your learning experience to an even deeper level.
The Power to Heal Yourself Bonus Collection
- Individual Process and Creativity
Audio Dialogue with Alanis Morissette
- Manifestation and the Power of Inner Bonding
Audio Dialogue with Dr. Erika Chopich
- Dear God, What is Love
- Inner Bonding Workshop Workbook
An Unprecedented Opportunity to Join The Power to Heal Yourself Virtual Program
We, at The Shift Network, feel deeply honored that Dr. Margaret Paul has chosen to partner with us on this exclusive LIVE online training. As you may know, this is a rare opportunity to learn directly from this renowned author and psychologist whose powerful insights and pioneering work are helping us heal and awaken ourselves, our partners – and our world.
Through this powerful online format, you’ll not only save time and money on workshop costs (plus travel, accommodations and meals – which would cost thousands of dollars), you’ll also be able to benefit from Dr. Margaret’s incredible teachings and exercises from the comfort of your home – at your own pace!
If you are serious about recognizing your true worth and discovering your passion and purpose in life, then you owe it to yourself, your loved ones – and our world – to take this one-of-a-kind training.
If you’re ready to take the next step in evolving yourself, click the register button below to reserve your space now.
What Graduates of The Power to Heal Yourself
This course was incredibly valuable in more ways than one. What was covered in these few weeks would take over a year in therapy. Here you get an immediate way to key into something that will truly help the individual to heal in a safe way and continue to grow and work on themselves in the process. Completely enlightening and loving! Highly recommend to anyone looking for answers and a deeper understanding of how to help themselves to live a healthier more joyful life. Thank you!
– Susan Barrett, New York, NY
I have done a lot of inner child work and felt like I did not get anywhere with my inner child. This course addressed this issue and the reason why not right from the start. Margaret is so authentic, loving and clear with a gentle firmness like a good parent. I feel so much more in touch also with my authentic self and feel I got the tools to establish this relationship and therefor having much more fulfilling relationships with friends and partner. Thank you so much.
– Thea Dixon, Santa Monica, CA
I enjoyed this class immensely. A few times during a session, I saw the exact circumstance where my negative patterns began. The 6 steps that Margaret teaches is a great technique to show you where you are stuck and then how to transform this energy in a positive and loving way. She teaches that we always have to take care, love and respect ourselves first before any change can really happen. I loved this course because now I have tools to use when I am distressed that will help me to overcome this feeling. Thank you, Margaret.
– Cheri, San Diego, CA
Margaret Paul is the first therapist whom I found with this format and it really works for me!! The structure, exercises, printed material and especially Margaret as a genuinely caring, sensitive, clear and direct-when-necessary real person is the best therapist I have ever found!
– Mary, Baltimore, MD
Learning the correct skills in depth, actual steps to take once I learn to practice every day will change my life completely, I always knew loving myself, was what was missing – I just didn’t know how to do it. Thanks – forever grateful.
– Donna Bonnick, Sydney, Australia
I found the course very helpful and timely. The questions and answers and role-playing sessions were so applicable to my own life and situation. Dr. Margaret Paul is an incredible person and healer. I am so grateful to The Shift Network for their part in putting together and managing such an interesting and essential course. Thank you.
– Elaine, Toronto, Canada
It benefited me to talk to my inner child with kindness and compassion. Also when my daughters call me and have an issue I teach them how to talk to their inner child.
– Bronya Zeitlin, Delray Beach, FL
Margaret Paul is an amazing teacher who really knows her topic. I learned so much and will continue to listen to the recordings over and over.
– Kathy, New Jersey
If you are willing and/or looking for a tool or course that will really help you see yourself in relationship to both yourself and others, this course and Margaret’s knowledge and expertise will get you there!
– Trisha G., Coral Springs, FL
About Margaret Paul...
Dr. Margaret Paul is the author/co-author of several bestselling books, including Do I Have to Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?, Inner Bonding, Healing Your Aloneness, The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By My Kids? and Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? Dr. Paul’s books have been distributed around the world and have been translated into 11 languages.
Margaret holds a Ph.D. in psychology and is a relationship expert, noted public speaker, workshop leader, educator, chaplain, consultant and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including The Oprah Show. She has successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples and business relationships – and taught classes and seminars since 1967.
Margaret continues to work with individuals and couples throughout the world. She is able to access spiritual guidance during her sessions, which enables her to work with people wherever they are in the world. Margaret is passionate about helping people rapidly heal the root cause of their pain, and learn the path to joy and loving relationships.
Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What is a virtual course?
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